Being His Peace...

My dear virtuous woman,

  I hope you learnt a lesson or two from my last post. Well, my message for you today is simple; BE YOUR MAN'S PEACE! 

See, before that man asked you to be his wife or girlfriend, he saw the good in you. He hoped you'd be his advisor when he needed advice. He hoped you'd be a strong and a positive influence in his life and he hoped that you coming into his life would make his  world a brighter place. But why do you keep babbling at the least misunderstanding? Why do you call him useless because he's doesn't give you those huge sums of money anymore? Why have you stopped making dinner for him? Have you even sat down to think about what he may be going through?

You keep complaining to your friends that your man has become a workaholic. Girlfriend, I'm sorry to tell you that you are the one driving him away from the house. You remember how he used to rush to the house during his lunch breaks to see your beautiful face when you first got together? He still has the same job right? Then ask yourself why he doesn't do that anymore. Ask yourself why he now comes home at 9:00pm and marches straight to the bathroom and forward march to bed like a soldier. I just pray that another woman is not taking your place now because that would require a divine intervention for him to run back to you.

I am not here to give you a list of the "do's and don'ts" in relationships. I'm just here to tell you that you're complaining too much, you are babbling, in fact, you are bickering! And he's getting fed up. He's at his wits end and if you don't take care he'll leave. And when you come crying to me that he's gone, I'll give you a big hug, cry with you, give you a dirty knock on your head and whisper "I told you so" before I speak with him on your behalf.lol

I understand that some men can be annoying, in fact some are lazy and would not move their feet unless you push them. Those men can't build a future with you if you ask me. Just use your discretion and know how to deal with those type of men but if you're blessed to have one of God's angels on earth, then please hold on to him with all thy might. By saying this, I don't mean you have to let go of yourself because of him, no! In all your dealings, apply wisdom. Your God, your career and your family should equally be as important to you if not greater.

My wonderful lady, please sit your man down and discuss your issues. Don't raise your voice but rather clarify your arguments. Let him know how you feel and if he is wise, he'll admit his mistakes and apologise immediately. Don't always let your voice be heard but let your heart be felt.

Be his peace when there is noise in his life, be his comforter when in crisis, give him a shoulder to lean on when he needs it and be that praying woman who pushes (pray until something happens) for him.

Our elders say that a word to the wise is enough and so my lady of excellence, I would like to end my "word" here and hope you'll learn from this.

Adieu!

Signed,

Rebecca E. Abraham

(Maame Ezaneaya Abraham II​)