My dear wonderful, noble, amazing and beautiful ladies, please read this: the fact that the guy broke your virginity or got you pregnant doesn't mean you should hold on to h!im especially when he's treating you like a football.
I had a sleepless night after my friend called late in the night to tell me what her boyfriend did to her. Ok , so her first idea was that she's a Christian and so she made a promise to herself that the guy who breaks her virginity would be the one she'll marry and that to me is the first offence! The second idea was that she got pregnant for this guy and so he definitely had to be the husband when the guy had no plans of settling down. Second offence!
See, a man who will help you remove your pants but will let you wear it yourself after the act is a no no no. Girlfriend, I'm sorry but you should have seen this coming. The biggest sign was when you played the big prank on him that you were pregnant and the first thing he did was to pick up his phone to look for that pharmacist's contact. What were you thinking? Do you think he was asking for a drug that would keep the baby safe in your womb? Or he was asking for the prices of diapers?? And when you finally got pregnant for him you remember what he told you, that he didn't 'cum inside you'. Great!
You told him you'd want to keep the baby and he was bold enough to tell you to leave him out of that decision and that he had no plans of being a dad. A good idea of not thinking about terminating the pregnancy but I'm wondering if you've stopped hanging out with him since you promised that the man who breaks your virginity will definitely be your husband.
OK, so what if I told you he already has a baby somewhere and you're baby mama 2. I'm being very real today because my dear, know this for a fact that you're not the only one going through this. See, we've all done things that could raise eyebrows but we share our stories not only because we want to come out clean, but because we don't want others to go through what we went through. We should teach people to walk on the rocks we stumbled on! We don't have to wait for them to also stumble before we teach them how to crawl, they have to walk! Baby girl, I decided to share your story because I felt this is nothing new to my fellow women. We are always hearing people's stories but someway, somehow we fall into that trap too and that is when we need a pick-me-up story to follow.
Your story may also inspire another Lady to rescind her decision of aborting a baby or it may even touch a man's heart to accept the responsibility of being a father.
To every lady who is going through this like my friend now, I urge you to take heart. Whatever you decide to do is a choice, not a mistake. Please know that God is not mad at you and He'll never be. Confide in someone who is not judgemental and let them know what your plans are.
I always pray that a time would come when a woman can run to her fellow woman to talk about sensitive issues without fear of mockery, intimidation or even gossip. Let's empower each other as women, it is my fervent prayer that we women will see each other as sisters and praying partners in the Lord and not enemies. They say women are their own enemies but I wish we would be at peace with each other and lift up prayers in oneness to our Sovereign God.
This is one woman's story, I don't know about yours but I pray that the Lord holds you. Be strong and face any obstacle that may come your way. It's only for a time. Love you and remember, any decision you make is a choice, not a mistake.
Signed,
Rebecca E. Abraham
(But I prefer to be called Maame Ezaneaya Abraham II because it takes me back to my roots,Lol)
P.S: To the irresponsible men out there, if you are skillful in bed, learn to be skillful in taking responsibilities as well.
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